Ever since I was little, I grew up watching movies, just like everyone else. Inevitably, movies create false expectations and tend to raise hopes in every aspect, especially for a kid. Hollywood exaggerates the concepts of heroism, love, happiness and even friendship. Every movie I watched talks about friendship like it’s all pillow fights, Tumblr posts, makeovers and telling secrets until 2 a.m. You get to high school and you’re sitting in Chemistry and the girl next to you just becomes your best friend. Not just your once-a-week phone call best friend, but the only-person-in-the-world-who-understands-you kind of friend. If that’s true, I guess I picked the wrong seat in chemistry.
When I got to high school my freshman year, I learned that not everything you think will happen, actually happens. I had two friends that I thought would watch my back through everything. Boy, was I wrong. Girls don’t act anything like the honest, selfless, forgiving girls in the scripted version, books and movies. They don’t make trash can fires in the living room to burn your ex’s stuff. They don’t look up everyone you know and throw you a surprise party on your birthday.
They tell terrible rumors, befriend girls that hate you and even hook up with your ex boyfriend. (Needless to say, we’re not friends anymore). I can’t say that I didn’t see it coming, but when your friends don’t stay loyal, can they even be counted as your friends? At the start of this school year, I cut ties loose and just hang out with some of my other friends to get closer. Maybe I’m just not one of those people who can handle having one person around me all the time, and I guess that’s okay.
Lately I noticed myself watching all of my friends deal with drama with their best friends and I am thankful that I am not a part of that. As much as I wish I had someone to go to concerts with and scrapbook and what not, I realize that some things will never be worth compromising for. The same goes for any relationship. Don’t trade in your morals or your standards for anyone. I know that sounds kind of cheesy but some friends talked me into doing some pretty dumb things and I let them just because I wanted friends. But I’m saying, don’t let them talk you into compromising. You will find that friend or that relationship whenever the time comes. For the meantime, if you feel like you also picked the wrong seat in chemistry, just relax. It may not happen in high school or even in college, but you will; everyone does.
